Do Women lie to each other for social reasons

 I ran across a video about Women lie to each other but did not save the link. 

It explained the idea that women are often in small social groups and will lie to each other to maintain social harmony and cohesion.  Because they are essentially "stuck" with the group.  When there is a difficult conversation, its more straight forward to bullshit, even casually, that it is to confront an unpleasant reality.  Either the person who is being "told" will lose face and potentially blame the "teller" or the "teller" will lose face for doing the telling... and the other women in the group will all have their opinions about who did what and why... drama ensues.  This ties in with the "indirect" nature of a great deal of female communication around what they see as difficult topics. Their social status and the derived social status of their children and mate often depend on how carefully they can navigate the intricacies of these social games.

A point was made in the video about how women will lie to men and expect men to lie to them in the same way, but men operate my different rules, which results in unexpected conflict. 

Men on the other hand, within their male groups often take delight in calling each other out with the bluntest public reality checks. This ties into the realities of making sure each of them is well grounded about any weaknesses they have and shortcomings as this information can be important during any conflict situation when the men need to cooperate and work together.  Deceit and delusions about capacity and competence can be a threat to the individual or the team and result in none of them comming home. 

 

This is not about suggesting that either strategy is better, as they are both adaptations that have been very successful within the respective parts of society and the world. Just that there are very different strategies towards interpersonal reality checks.